Have Courage, Be Kind

We all know the saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”

We also know the saying is not true.

One sentence that was spoken to me 3 years ago still comes back to haunt me from time to time.

“Man Lauren you were an ugly little kid”

It was my last week of high school, right before graduation and my 6th grade class members  and I were sitting in our elementary school cafeteria watching a slide show of us a as kids. Super cute right?  As if high school wasn’t hard enough, rarely feeling beautiful compared to the other girls, my “friend” had to say that in front of everyone. 

“Man Lauren you were an ugly little kid”

From time to time the devil loves to use that simple sentence to lie to me about my worth, my dignity, my beauty, my true self. But those words are not true. The truth is it was a bad picture. The truth is I was and am beautiful. I want to speak the truth to myself and others.

We all know words stay with us, why aren’t we more careful? We know how words can hurt, why don’t we think long and hard before we speak?

james 3-4 5

“It is the same with ships: even though they are so large and driven by fierce winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot’s inclination wishes. In the same way the tongue is a small member and yet has great pretensions”

That bible verse, James 3:4-5, was one I read in my children’s bible a long time ago and it has also stuck with me. It’s such a strong picture. Our words, so small, have such a great impact on the course of our lives, on the lives of others.


Pop culture gave us a strong reminder of this earlier this week at the Grammy Award show where Taylor Swift gave a short, powerful speech, standing up to the hurtful words of Kanye West.

Swift could have used her words to take down Kanye West. Instead, Taylor Swift chose to, in under 100 words, defend herself and inspire and encourage others. She used her words for good and those words are going to stick with some young women (and men!) out there.

We all want to be heard, loved, and have a voice of our own. But as for me, I want to have a positive voice shouting out amid all the negativity. We have a choice. I know I have words I wish I could take back. I am not perfect in this matter, but I have become quieter in conversations, thinking more, trying to choose my words wisely.

Now this blog would not be complete without a solid Disney reference so here you go. Cinderella is told by her loving mother to:


So my challenge for you is this:

Have Courage: the courage to think twice before speaking

And Be Kind: use your words to love and build others up.

And if the Disney quote wasn’t enough I stumbled upon this beauty:


Have courage be kind bible

Mixing Jesus with Disney. Delightful.

Until next time,

Dream Big. Live Courageously! And Thrive!!

Xo Lo


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